Key Upcoming Culture-of-Life Gatherings/Projects

The Open House will follow Mass at 1:30 p.m. at the
550 Washington St. Clinic, #801, San Diego, CA, 92103

Culture of Life Family Services offers quality Christ-centered medical care including:

- Giving compassionate whole-person health care to meet the unique physical,  
   psychological, socioeconomic and spiritual needs of patients

- Natural Family Planning education

- Caring for all those in need, not based on ability to pay

- Spiritual direction to women and families in crisis pregnancies


Culture of Life Family Services Mass and Open House
Saturday, April 28, 2007
Mass at Noon with Bishop Cordileone at Mercy Hospital -
Our Lady's Chapel (behind the hospital, adjacent to the parking structure)
1:30 p.m. Blessing & Open House - 550 Washington St., #801
Light lunch & refreshments will be provided
Meet Dr. Delgado, COLFS Board, and staff
Tour the center

No need to RSVP - For further information contact COLFS at: 619-692-4401.



 

Get ready to join San Diego County's NAMI Walk for the Mind of America! The journey your footsteps will make at Balboa Park will join those across the nation to fight for the cause of mental illness. 

NAMI (the National Alliance on Mental Illness) is the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to improving the lives of persons living with serious mental illness and their families.  Founded in 1979, NAMI has become the nation’s voice on mental illness, a national organization including NAMI organizations in every state and in over 1100 local communities across the country who join together to meet the NAMI mission through advocacy, research, support, and education.

NAMI is dedicated to the eradication of mental illnesses and to the improvement of the quality of life of all whose lives are affected by these diseases.

• Form a walk team
 
• Join an existing team
 
• Walk as an individual
    
• Sponsor a walker
 
• Be an event sponsor

For more information, contact Shannon Jaccard, Disability Facilitator at Our Mother of Confidence Parish:

shannonjaccard@namisd.org   or   call 619-584-5564

To Register for the walk: www.nami.org/namiwalks/CA/sandiego 


Walk for the Mind of America with NAMI (Distance: 2 or 5 K)
Saturday, April 21, 2007
Balboa Park, at 6th and Quince
Check-in time: 7:00 a.m.
Walk/Run Start Time: 8:00 a.m.
 

Dignity Request:

No dignity request this issue. 
 

Probably one of the most informative pro-life web site on the internet, Fr. Frank Pavone's www.priestsforlife.org is a treasure trove for students, activists, parents, clergy... well just about anyone who cares about human life.  



Visit Priests for Life:  http://www.priestsforlife.org .

You'll also want to order a copy of Fr. Frank's new book, Ending Abortion, not Just Fighting It.

http://www.pflstore.com/pc-121-3-ending-abortion-not-just-fighting-it.aspx




 

If you are planning an event that falls within the mission of social ministry, send the particulars four to five weeks in advance to the Office for Social Ministry via e-mail, osmelink@diocese-sdiego.org.  The OSM reserves the right to publish or not to publish any proposed event information.  We hope this will assist your local efforts to re-build a culture of life.

1. Silent Voices, "Walk for Life" to be held on Saturday, May 5, 2007

Watch for OSM e-link bulletin #59 around Tuesday, May 8, 2007  
 

Article/Statement for April 4, 2007

Thinking about Sex and Marital Surrender

The failure to think carefully about the deeper meaning of sex stands at the root of several modern-day problems

By  Rev. Tadeusz Pacholczyk, Ph.D.

Do Americans think enough about sex? Some would argue that it seems to be the only thing on people’s minds in troubled times like these where so much attention is lavished on celebrity couplings, Viagra and breast augmentation. Yet there is an important difference between sex on the brain and sex as an object of thought, and we face a rather urgent cultural need to reflect more deeply on the inner order and significance of human sexual activity. The failure to think carefully about the deeper meaning of sex, I believe, stands at the root of several modern-day bioethical problems like in vitro fertilization (IVF) and contraception.

Sex has a delicate structure of its own. At the heart of the marital act, we can identify a kind of surrender. The inner language of sexuality involves a surrender of our self and our self-will. Prior to the marital act, one already sees how this self-surrender begins to come into play: does my spouse feel up to it tonight? If we become pregnant, will I support her in the morning sickness that may ensue? Am I willing to surrender my desire for intimacy now, if we agree that we ought to wait? Am I ready to surrender myself to the various demands that will come with raising children well and responsibly? Am I open to my spouse’s concerns tonight, even more than my own?

Even within the marital act itself, we discover this same aspect of self-surrender. St. Augustine referred to the intensity of sexual intimacy, noting that “when it reaches its climax, there is an almost total extinction of mental alertness; the intellectual senses, as it were, are overwhelmed.”

The point of climax, then, also involves a language of letting go of oneself, so that we enter a new and ecstatic space where we are no longer in command, where our own self-will no longer prevails.
 
This aspect of surrendering ourselves, looking to the other, and relinquishing control is a basic dynamism at the heart of human sexuality. Whenever a new human life is conceived at the center of this surrender, it suddenly appears as a “third”, and a co-equal with its parents. The child seems to appear out of nothing, precisely when the parents find they can lay claim to nothing of their own, when their surrender has become complete. In their mutual surrender, the child can come as an equal, entering the world not as a product or a project, but as a gift awaiting discovery and unpacking. In their abandonment to each other, the husband and wife initially lack even the knowledge about whether they have become pregnant; they remain unsure for a while about whether the gift has come or not, and they wait in hope. Clearly, they are not in control of the whole process. In the depths of their one-flesh union, in their “union of self-annihilation,” they discover this transcendent and mysterious possibility of engendering/receiving a “third.” That “third” comes as an equal to the parents in part because the parents cannot selfishly lay claim to the new life as if it were an entitlement, possession or right. With the ultimate origin of that new life out of their control, they cannot subjugate it as “unequal” or “lesser” than themselves, because of the inherent equality of origins between themselves as human beings and their children as human beings. The engendering of new life, in an important sense, always stands just outside their full control. The inner structure of human sexuality thus includes this central and discernible meaning: that the root origin of new human life is meant to ultimately lie beyond our own direct determination, being instead the fruit of a collaborative surrender and union with our spouse and with God.

Once we begin to see this beautiful inner order of human sexuality, we can also begin to appreciate how both contraception and IVF manage to upset the apple cart of sexual relations in married life. When a married couple uses contraception, they say with their bodies that they do not, in fact, surrender to each other. They hold back a deep and critical aspect of themselves, namely, their own fruitfulness and fertility. They refuse to share that part of themselves with each other and with God. Because sex is about total surrender, contraception strikes at the heart of human sexuality by turning it into a partial and warped exchange, where one spouse may use the other to gain certain desired satisfactions. This can amount more to manipulation and domination, perhaps even a form of mutual masturbation, rather than loving surrender. The entire dimension of loss-of-self in mutual surrender, opening up a self-less space for the arrival of a “third,” is stripped away by contraception. Any child who might happen to be conceived (in spite of contraceptive efforts) arrives not as a welcome “third” equal to the parents, but as an unequal, less-than-desired encumbrance. The “third” is perceived as a threat to my desires and plans. I must remain in command, in charge, rather than living in the fruitful mystery of total surrender in marriage. The appearance of this “third” who is outside my game plan may lead to the next step — abortion — reflecting a radical closure of the marriage to any kind of surrender or acceptance, and a firm rejection of any kind of equality between parent and child. So while there should be real surrender in this setting, with contraception there is instead a real form of domination over the origins of another. The apple cart goes topsy-turvy as contraception enters a marriage.

The situation is equally troubling with IVF. At the heart of IVF, we again encounter not only manipulation but also a new form of domination. Instead of the child appearing as an equal in the midst of true self-abandonment following sexual intimacy, the child is now highly unequal to the parent, a pawn to be played with in the endgame of satisfying parental wants. The child is radically unequal to his parents because he is manufactured in laboratory glassware, treated as a product, manhandled, prodded, possibly even frozen or discarded so as to assure that a desired outcome is forthcoming for those who dominate over him and his origins. Instead of surrender, the origin of human life is turned into a laboratory effort that is subject to our own direct determination and manipulation. The arrival of a “third” is not a gift that appears in the midst of our one-flesh surrender, but a scheme to be realized by making use of all our wiles and resources. Our own willfulness, rather than our mutual surrender, is the central dynamic in IVF, much as it is in contraception.

Benedict XVI in his first encyclical letter speaks of “That love between man and woman which is neither planned nor willed, but somehow imposes itself upon human beings ... ” This mysterious love is particularly reflected in the marital embrace of husband and wife, calling forth their mutual self-abandonment and total surrender, and throwing open a receptive space in their marriage to new life and new love.