Office for Social
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September 27, 2006  #52    858-490-8323
 
 
 
 
Dear e-link Member,

We welcome the 16 new members that recently joined e-link, and as always, we remind current members and inform new members that past e-link bulletins and this current bulletin can be viewed at www.osmelink.org.

You will notice a vigorous promotion of Proposition 85 in this and in the upcoming October e-link.  This should come as no surprise.  With the current state of politics in California, it is unlikely that we will ever have an opportunity to work on behalf of legislation that reflects the core of the culture-of-life perspective.  Working on proposition 85 could be described as an opportunity of a lifetime.  In the California Assembly and Senate, family-friendly and life-friendly draft legislation rarely makes it past a first committee hearing.  At that point it's dead.  So, let's join together to promote parental rights, to protect the health and safety of our minor daughters, and to safeguard the lives of our children and grandchildren.  Yes on 85!

God Bless!

Wednesday, September 27, 2006      OSM e-link Bulletin #23

Table of Contents 


Remarks from Kent on the denial of parents' rights
 

Key Upcoming Culture-of-Life Gatherings/Projects (please join us)

    1. Join with hundreds of faithful "Witness for Life" at the 2006 "Life Chain" on
        Sunday, October 1, 2006, 2:00 to 3:30 p.m. on Balboa Ave. and Genesee
        in San Diego

    2. Disability Job Fair, "Jobtoberfest" set for Tuesday, October 3, 2006, at the
        Balboa Park Club, 2150 West Pan American Road, 10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.

    3. "Immigration and Catholic Social Teaching" a special presentation by Fr. Peter
        Ruggere, director of the diocesan Missions Office, to be sponsored by
        St. James Parish in Solana Beach on Sunday, October 22, from 7:00 p.m. to
        9:00 p.m., 625 South Nardo Ave.

    4. Office for Social Ministry to hold Holy Hour of Adoration with Bishop Cordileone
        presiding on Tuesday, October 17, from 7:00 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. at the
        diocesan Pastoral Center, 3888 Paducah Drive, San Diego



Short Reports on Office for Social Ministry Related Issues/Events

     - Life Perspectives unveiled its new Whole Life Curriculum at the Pastoral Center
        on August 24, 2006, providing lesson plans and a practice lesson with diocesan
        religious educators and culture of life coordinators
 
     - The San Diego Chapter of California People of Faith Working Against the Death
        Penalty provided a forum on the Death Penalty, "An Eye for and Eye?" for San
        Diego clergy on September 20, 2006
 

Advocacy Request X 2

     - Please send the "Proof is on Tape" web-site link to the to all your friends and
        neighbors and ask them to support Proposition 85

     - In recognition of Domestic Violence Month, we ask that you round up your
        used cell phones and donate them to families experiencing domestic
        violence.  Drop-off locations are listed below
 

Advocacy Reportback

     - No reportback this month
 

Web and e-mail-based Resources

     - Many Roman Catholics have never visited the Official Vatican web site.  It's
        time we all enrich ourselves with this experience
 

Local and Regional Events/Gatherings/Projects

     1. Come celebrate a Mass for all those affected by abortion on Wednesday,
           October 4 at 6:00 p.m. at St. John the Evangelist Parish, 1638 Polk Avenue, San
           Diego, 92103-2622


     2.  BIRTHLINE OF SAN DIEGO COUNTY, INC. will have a "WALK FOR LIFE" on
          Saturday, October 14 at three locations in San Diego County  

     3.  North-County prayer witness at the Carlsbad Planned Parenthood Clinic
          scheduled for every third Wednesday of the month from 10:00 to 10:30 a.m.

     4. Prayerful witness for life at two locations in San Diego County - every
         Saturday at Sixth and Palm in San Diego and every second Saturday of
         the month at Pomerado Road in Poway

     5. St. Dismas Guild sponsors two weekly hours of prayer for the unborn in
         North County

     6. St. Rose of Lima Parish sponsors a regular Wednesday Pro-Life Prayer Vigil in
         Chula Vista after the 8:00 a.m. Mass

     7. St. John the Evangelist Parish in Encinitas Pro-Life Mass and Rosary held on
         the first Monday of each month

     8. Most Precious Blood Parish Rosary Prayer Vigils held on Wednesdays each
         week at 8:45 a.m. (Saturday Prayer Vigils have been cancelled)

     9. The ministry of prayer and sidewalk counseling at the Clinica Medica abortion
         facility in Chula Vista is seeking sidewalk counselors for Wednesday mornings 
 

Article/Statement for September 27, 2006

     - What should our attitude be concerning the unplanned pregnancies of
        of unmarried women?  Amy Laura Hall writes, "We are called to encourage sexual
          discipline outside and inside of marriage, while also affirming, in the very same breath, that
          no pregnancy is outside of God's reach."   Learn how this profound insight is changing how
          we talk to youth about human sexuality.  From Christianity Today Online

 

Remarks from Kent Peters 


It is with a heavy heart that I contemplate the weeks leading up to the November election

How unfathomably sad it is that Planned Parenthood and the abortion "rights" community will spend several millions of dollars in the coming weeks to successfully convince hundreds of thousands of our fellow citizens that minor girls are presently safe in the hands of abortionists, and that Proposition 85 would unravel that zone of safely. 

In fact, the exact opposite is true.  For years, California abortionists have been performing abortions on minors without the knowledge or consent of their parents.  These secret abortions have covered up the fact that many of these young girls, some as young as 10 and 11, were impregnated by men many years older than their victims, and rarely, if ever, have reports of incest or statutory rape been made following these surgical procedures.  The abortion industry in California has, in fact, provided cover for rapists, rapists who prey on our children.

If you find this hard to believe, please listen to just a few of the taped conversations with abortion providers that we are making available below.  Each recording involves a young woman pretending to be a 13 year old girl impregnated by a 21 year old male.  She shares this basic information with actual employees of California abortion clinics and then requests an abortion.  You won’t believe what transpires.
 
      http://www.traditionalvalues.org/1/pph/index2.php

Sadness, anger, and a willingness to work diligently on behalf of Proposition 85 are the only reasonable responses to this horrible evil.  

That abortion proponents are using "safety" and "health" as the masthead in their anti-85 campaign is beyond comprehension.  What audacity!  I ask God to spare me from their advertisements this election season.

Please join the hundreds of thousands of Proposition 85 supporters willing to vote for Proposition 85 and share what they’ve learned with family, friends, neighbors and co-workers.  Finally, we hope you will support the “Yes on 85” campaign with a financial gift.  www.yeson85.net  I made a contribution online.  I hope you will too.

God Bless.

 

 

Key Upcoming Culture-of-Life Gatherings/Projects


Number 1:   Second Notice... Join hundreds of faithful "witness for life" at the 2006 Life Chain - Sunday, October 1, 2006, 2:00 to 3:30 p.m. on Balboa Ave. and Genesee - Hymns, fellowship and pizza to follow at 3:45 p.m.

The 2006 Life Chain, where the Gospel meets the road…. In Clairemont, along Balboa Avenue, between Genesee and I-805.  Life Chain signs only - no Graphic Abortion Pictures or signs.  Collect signs for this important event at the Northeast corner of Balboa & Genesee, near the Starbucks.


The Life Chain is a prayer service. Upon arrival warmly greet your fellow Chainers and then begin to pray.  As we join a thousand LifeChains across America and Canada, let each of us trust wholly in our Lord and not in ourselves or our numbers.

Our own efforts have failed to end or to substantially reduce the numbers of unborn children lost in the abortion holocaust.  May God intervene with power and mercy.  May He forgive our past indifference and shallow commitment.  May he fill us with compassion that we might move the world to embrace the unborn, their mothers, and their fathers.


 

Hymns, Fellowship and Pizza will follow the Life Chain at 3:45 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. at Lindbergh Park at Ashford Drive and Eckstrom Ave.  From Genesee go east on Balboa. Turn right on Charger Blvd (just west of the 805). Immediately turn left on Eckstrom Ave and then turn right on Ashford Drive. 

For more information and to reserve a pizza, contact Sue Lopez 619-276-7525, Slopez@integrity.com

Life Chain 2006 
Sunday, October 1, 2006
2:00 p.m. to 3:30 p.m.
Start at the corner of Balboa Ave. and Genesee

Hymns, Fellowship and Pizza
Sunday, October 1, 2006
3:45 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. 
Lindbergh Park
Corner of Ashford Dr. and Eckstrom Ave.

 

 

Number 2:   Second Notice... Jobtoberfest, a job fair for people with disabilities, set for Tuesday, October 3, 2006 at the Balboa Park Club









In conjunction with National Disability Employment Awareness Month, the San Diego Committee on Employment of People with Disabilities presents the Jobtoberfest 2006 job fair.

Dozens of San Diego’s best employers will be vying to attract hundreds of qualified job applicants at this annual event.
 
Admission is free for job seekers to the Tuesday, October 3, 2006 event, at the Balboa Park Club, 2150 West Pan American Road, in Balboa Park, from 10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. Employers pay a nominal fee to staff a table with recruiters and to gain access to this largely untapped pool of highly-skilled job seekers.

Workshops and professional assistance with resume writing and interviewing skills will be offered throughout the day. Job seekers are encouraged to dress in professional attire and bring their resume to meet employers of their choice.
 
Jobtoberfest is accessible to people with disabilities and is presented by QUALCOMM, Marriott Hotels, and the San Diego Committee on Employment of People with Disabilities. Jobtoberfest media supporters include the San Diego Union-Tribune and the San Diego Community Newspaper Group.

For more information, please contact: Gale Barlow at 619-388-6807, gbarlow@sdccd.edu.

Jobtoberfest
Tuesday, October 3, 2006
10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.
Balboa Park Club
2150 Pan American Road West (
map)
San Diego, CA


 

 

Number 3:   "Immigration and Catholic Social Teaching" a special presentation by Fr. Peter Ruggere, director of the diocesan Missions Office, at St. James in Solana Beach - October 22nd

 

The Church believes that current immigration laws and policies have often led to the undermining of immigrants’ human dignity and have kept families apart.  The existing immigration system has resulted in a growing number of persons in this country in an unauthorized capacity, living in the shadows as they toil in jobs that would otherwise go unfilled.  Close family members of U.S. citizens and lawful permanent residents must wait years for a visa to be reunited.  And, our nation’s border enforcement strategies have been ineffective and have led to the death of thousands of migrants.

 

The U.S. Catholic Bishops do not condone unlawful entry or circumventions of our nation’s immigration laws.  The bishops believe that reforms are necessary in order for our nation’s immigration system to respond to the realities of separated families and labor demands that compel people to immigrate to the United States, whether in an authorized or unauthorized fashion.

 

 

Join Fr. Peter Ruggare to learn more about what the U.S. Bishops have to say about the complex problem of immigration.  Light refreshments will be served.  For more information contact Tom Theisen at 760-944-9410. 

 



"Immigration and Catholic Social Teaching"  Fr. Peter Ruggere
Sunday, October 22, 2006 - 7:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m.
Saint James Catholic Church
625 South, Nardo Ave.
Solana Beach, California

Mapquest Map of St. James in Solana Beach




4. Office for Social Ministry to hold Holy Hour of Adoration in honor of Respect Life Month 2006





In honor of Respect Life Month, the Office for Social Ministry is sponsoring a special Holy Hour of Adoration to promote a Culture of Life.  Bishop Salvatore Cordileone will preside.  The event will take place on Tuesday, October 17, 2006 from 7:00 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. at the Pastoral Center Chapel, 3888 Paducah Drive in San Diego.

Please join us in praying for the passage of Prop 85 and the advancement of a Culture of Life!






Holy Hour of Adoration
Tuesday, October 17, 2006
7:00 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.
Diocesan Pastoral Center
3888 Paducah Drive
San Diego, CA
for information contact Joseph at 858-490-8323




 

Short Reports on OSM Related Issues/Events


Number 1:   Life Perspectives Unveils its new Whole Life Curriculum at Diocesan Event - Anyone can review samples of the curriculum at  www.wholelifecurriculum.com


The Culture of Life Coordinators gathered for their quarterly meeting at the Pastoral Center on August 24, 2006.  Two representatives from Life Perspectives, Director Michaelene Fredenburg, and Curriculum Development Speaker Linda Noble, presented the organizations new respect life curriculum for grades Kindergarten – Grade Six.  

Parish Culture of Life Coordinators as well as teachers, catechists and principals were given and overview of the curriculum and then lead through a sample 1st grade lesson (see photo at left).  

The Whole Life Curriculum was developed as an aid in teaching children about the sanctity of life, purity and social justice.  Those who attended the meeting were given a coupon for the free download of the curriculum.  The curriculum is now available to all for a nominal fee.  For more details see the website for further explanation and samples: www.wholelifecurriculum.com or contact Life Perspectives at 619-516-1236.

 

Number 2:   California People of Faith Working Against the Death Penalty sponsored a workshop for San Diego clergy on September 20, 2006 - "An Eye for and Eye?" San Diego Clergy Reflect on the Death Penalty


Article by Dr. Michael Peddecord, Professor Emeritus,
Graduate School of Public Health, San Diego State University

More that 40 area clergy took part in the September 20th workshop entitled “An Eye for an Eye? - San Diego Clergy Reflect on the Death Penalty.”  The local chapter of California People of Faith Working Against the Death Penalty organized the event.  After an opening prayer, the systematic legal problems in the California death penalty trial and appeals process was documented by Marjorie Cohn, professor at the Thomas Jefferson School of Law.

A panel of clergy and scholars described the positions of several faiths on the death penalty.  Rev. Scott Richardson, Dean of St. Paul’s Saints Episcopal Cathedral, reminded us that the death penalty could be viewed as contrary to the tenets of Christian love and redemption.  He described the current worldwide Anglican opposition to the death penalty as the result of an evolution that is based on tradition, review of scripture and prayerful reflection.

 

Panel Presenters: Rev. Scott Richardson, Professor Khaleel Mohammed, Rabbi Alexis Pearce, and Dr. Terence McGoldrick



Professor Khaleel Mohammed of the Religious Studies department at San Diego State University, who is a practicing Muslim, acknowledged the variety of beliefs regarding the death penalty across the Muslims and predominately Islamic countries.  He expresses the consensus of many Islamic leaders and scholars that the support for the death penalty is largely the result of a literal interpretation of selected passages in the Koran.  Pointing out the importance of reflection on context of any sacred text, he expressed the belief that when the entire Koran was read and understood, that the death penalty was counter to the forgiveness, brotherhood and mutual support that characterized the teachings of Mohammad.  

Dr. Terence McGoldrick, an adjunct faculty member in Ethics and Theology at the University of San Diego and a Business Ethics consultant, outlined the evolution of Catholic teaching.  The current opposition to the death penalty is a reflection of the sanctity of life in all of its forms.  Catholic opposition was particularly visible under Pope John Paul II. 

Rabbi Alexis Pearce, emeritus spiritual leader of Congregation Dor Hadash, reminded us that the oft used call for an “Eye for an Eye” has nothing to do with any theological support or rationale for the death penalty.  Jewish historical tradition, both ancient and modern, has contributed to opposition to the death penalty.  Rabbi Pearce also pointed out that Jesus of Nazareth was only one of many hundreds of Jewish rabbis who were executed by the Romans during that particularly bloody period in Jewish history.  Current Jewish belief, which is clearly in opposition to the death penalty, is based on Talmudic teachings and rules which were codified long before the Roman conquest of Israel.  While the Hebrew Scriptures include examples where God inflects death on the enemies of his chosen people, it is common Jewish wisdom that imposition of the death penalty is the province of the almighty and not of fallible humans.  While the Talmud does not ban executions, it includes very strict procedural rules that protect citizens and all but preclude capital punishment.  These protections are reflected in current Israeli law.
 
The panel was followed by featured Speaker, Pastor Billy Neal Moore (photo at left).  Rev. Moore, recounted some of the key events of his 16 plus on Georgia’s death row.  He described his remorse for the robbery-murder of a 77-year-old man.  He confessed to the murder which he committed while drunk and was given the death penalty in a rural Georgia county.  In prison, he wrote letters to the victim’s family apologizing for his crime.  The family was so moved by his sincere sorrow that they forgave him and regarded it their Christian duty to spare his life.  While obtaining stays of execution in the federal courts, it was eventually the parole board that commuted Billy’s death sentence to life in prison.  He recounted the support of many people of faith throughout his ordeal as well as the unexpected intervention of Mother Teresa who told the Georgia parole board that they must find in their hearts to “do what Jesus would do.”  The parole board did, his death sentence commuted to life in prison and he was eventually paroled in 1991.  He worked at a variety of jobs until he was ordained as a Pentecostal minister and undertook his present ministry which is to show that the death penalty is no solution to crime.  His mission to abolish the death penalty has taken him all over the United States.  His book, I Shall Not Die: Seventy-Two Hours on Death Watch is a compelling story of faith and hope amid the inhumanities of the death penalty and our prison system. 

Co-chairs of the CPF leadership committee, Kent Peters (MC) and Ronnie Friedman-Barone kept the events moving.  Other CPF members who helped organize the workshop were on hand to learn, and provide resources to support future efforts by clergy.  CPF members involved in planning included Jennifer Bonakdar, Rev. Anthony Currin, Tim Spann, Joseph Horejs, Michael Peddecord, Carol Ann Goldstein, and Carleen Johnson. 

Rev. Moore’s book and a list of resources are available from the Office of Social Ministry - 858-490-8323.  The statewide CPF website is www.californiapeopleoffaith.org.  The local email contact is Michael Peddecord at cpfsd@cox.net.

 

 

e-link Advocacy REQUEST X 2




 

Life Request:

We must get the word out!  Please visit the "Proof is on Tape" web page and listen to the recorded conversations between a young woman posing as a 13 year girl who is impregnated by a 21 year old man and the staff members of California abortion facilities.  Then send that link to all your friends, neighbors and family members, asking them to support Proposition 85.

http://www.traditionalvalues.org/1/pph/index2.php

Following is wording you might like to cut-and-paste into your e-mail.

I've just listened to some incredible conversations between a young woman posing as a 13 year old girl and California abortion clinic staff members.  She explains that her pregnancy was caused by a 21 year old male boyfriend and then requests abortion information, asking specifically if her parents will be told about the pregnancy or the abortion.  You won't believe how the clinic staff members respond.  You need to hear it for yourself.  Go to:

http://www.traditionalvalues.org/1/pph/index2.php

Thanks.  I hope you will join me in supporting Proposition 85 by sending this web link to all those in your e-mail address book asking your friends to send this link to their friends.

Thank you for supporting Proposition 85 in this way.

 

 


 

Dignity Request:

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
 
Relationship violence is a serious problem adversely impacting millions of men, women, and children. Though seldom discussed in terms of relationship violence, paternity fraud, parental alienation, and false accusations are life-threatening forms of relationship violence.  Hundreds of American and International studies clearly establish that relationship violence is not specific to age, race, religion, gender, sexual preference, or economic status.

One way to raise awareness and help a victim of domestic violence is to donate your old cell phones.  The deactivated cell phones are provided for victims of domestic violence who may encounter emergency situations.   Phones that are not distributed for emergency use can be sold by shelters or agencies to help fund work to end domestic violence.

If you have a cell phone that you wish to donate you may drop it off at any one of the Center for Community Solutions locations or if you are a Verizon Wireless customer at any one of their locations.

Center for Community Solutions
Coastal Location:
4508 Mission Bay Drive
San Diego, CA 92109
858-272-5777

East County Location:
7339 El Cajon Blvd. Suite J
La Mesa, CA 91941
619-697-7477

North County Location:
106 Grape Street
Escondido, CA 92025
(760) 747-6282
 

 

e-link Advocacy REPORTBACK


No reports this month

 

Web and e-mail-based Resources 


It you haven't, it's time to visit the Vatican, via the web that is.  You'll be able to spend hours on this site with its rich history and full complement of documents. 

Please enjoy your visit.

 

 

http://www.vatican.va/phome_en.htm

 

 

 

 

 

New Local/Regional Events and Gatherings 


If you are planning an event that falls within the mission of social ministry, send the particulars four to five weeks in advance to the Office for Social Ministry via e-mail, osmelink@diocese-sdiego.org.  The OSM reserves the right to publish or not to publish any proposed event information.  We hope this will assist your local efforts to re-build a culture of life.

 

1. Abortion leaves many casaulties in its wake: mothers, fathers, grandparents, friends, spouses, siblings, children...  Many express a need to experience healing

Come celebrate a Mass for all those affected by abortion on Wednesday, October 4 at 6:00 p.m. at St. John the Evangelist Parish, 1638 Polk Avenue, San Diego, 92103-2622


2. BIRTHLINE OF SAN DIEGO COUNTY, INC. will have a "WALK FOR LIFE" on Saturday, October 14 at three locations in San Diego County 

Walks will take place at, 1) Mission Bay Park DeAnza Cove North from 8:00 a.m. to 10:00 a.m., 2) Rohr Park 4548 Sweetwater Rd., Chula Vista from 8:00 a.m. to 10:00 a.m, and 3) St. Therese 6016 Camino Rico San Diego, CA (at the corner of College Ave. & Navaho Dr.) starting at 8:30 a.m.  All donations support the generous work fo and free services at Birthline of San Diego County.

Walkers are needed to walk and recruit sponsors.  For more information and registration materials contact Birthline at 858-270-2491. 


3. North-County prayer witness at the Carlsbad Planned Parenthood Clinic

North County parishioners meet the third Monday of every month from 10:00 to 10:30 a.m. to peacefully pray the rosary in front of the Carlsbad Planned Parenthood Clinic.  The clinic is located at 1820 Marron Rd. (in the shopping center just west of Plaza Camino Real Mall).  For more information contact Jahna White of St. Margaret Parish at 760-586-6356.


4. Prayerful witness for life at two locations (Sixth and Palm in San Diego and Pomerado Road in Poway) in San Diego County

Helpers of God’s Precious Infants weekly rosary prayer vigil from 8:30 a.m. to 11:30 a.m. every Saturday at Family Planning Associates 2850 Sixth Ave, at Palm, across from Balboa Park.  Prayer warriors also needed as early as 7:30 a.m. 

Call Sue Lopez 619/990-1341 for more information.
 
2nd Saturday of the month:  20 decades of the Rosary are prayed in procession past 4 clinics following the 7:30 a.m. Mass, 15546 Pomerado Road, Poway.  For more information, call 858-748-2109.


5. St. Dismas Guild sponsors two weekly hours of prayer for the unborn in North County

Join members of St. Dismas Guild for a rosary picket at Womancare, 120 S. Craven Way, San Marcos, (across from Cal State San Marcos), Tuesdays, 9-10 a.m.

The Guild also sponsors prayer (the rosary) in front of PayLess at Mission Avenue and Escondido Blvd. 347 W. Mission on Thursdays, 10:30-11:30 a.m.  For information on these prayer vigils, call 760-751-8541.
 

6. St. Rose of Lima sponsors a regular Thursday Pro-Life Prayer Vigil in Chula Vista

Please join St. Rose of Lima parishioners every Thursday after the 8 a.m. Mass at St. Rose of Lima, Chula Vista, for a pro-life prayer vigil at the clinic located at 261 Church Street, Chula Vista.   For more information, call Evangely Aliangan, 619-427-0230.


7. St. John the Evangelist Parish in Encinitas Pro-Life Mass and Rosary held on the first Monday of each month.

The first Monday of every month is designated Pro-Life Monday at St. John the Evangelist Church, 1001 Encinitas Blvd, Encinitas.  The 8:00 a.m. Mass will be followed by a Rosary for Life.  For more information, please call Helene McIlhon at 858-756-0622.


8. Most Precious Blood Parish Rosary Prayer Vigils held on Wednesdays each week

The Pro-Life Prayer Group from Most Precious Blood sponsors a Rosary Prayer Vigil in front of the Clinica Medica abortion facility at 1550 Broadway, Chula Vista every Wednesday at 8:45 a.m.  For more information, please call Shirley Henry at 619-420-7096 or Luis Mendoza at 619-300-5563.
 

9. The ministry associated with the Clinica Medica abortion facility in Chula Vista is seeking sidewalk counselors for Wednesday mornings - training will be provided

The CLINICA MEDICA abortion facility in Chula Vista is now performing abortions on Wednesday mornings.  Please contact Luis Mendoza, a Missionary of The Gospel of Life Lay Associate, at 619-300-5563, with questions or to share interest in this ministry.

 

Watch for OSM e-link bulletin #53 around Tuesday, October 24, 2006  

 

Article/Statement for September 27, 2006


From:

Back to Christianity Today magazine
Christianity Today, September 2006




THE CHRISTIAN VISION PROJECT

For Shame?
Why Christians should welcome, rather than stigmatize, unwed mothers and their children.
by Amy Laura Hall | posted 09/15/2006 09:30 a.m.

Margaret Sanger, the founder of Planned Parenthood, had a way with words. In 1922, she wrote a book chapter titled "The Cruelty of Charity." Charity toward the poor, especially toward poor immigrants, she opined, only "encourages the healthier and more normal sections of the world to shoulder the burden of unthinking and indiscriminate fecundity of others, which brings with it … a dead weight of human waste."

In an age when upstanding Congregationalists and Unitarians were urging Americans to produce Fewer and Better Babies (Eugenics Publishing House, 35th edition, 1929), Sanger was in step with the times. By mid-century, most mainstream Protestant leaders agreed that the nation needed to calibrate carefully the number and type of babiesand immigrantsallowed.

One central means for ensuring the careful calibration of procreation was shame. Indeed, the author of Fewer and Better Babies anticipated that working-class parents who produced more than two children would eventually be considered "anti-social, as criminal members of the community." The anti-immigration and birth-control movements during the first half of the 20th century were linked by the sense that some people were beneath human dignity and would pollute "native stock American" bloodlines. The growing consensus during this era was summed up by the words of a Methodist clergyman from Missouri, writing for the Methodist Quarterly Review: "We should demand that each child born is worthy of a place in our midst."

Yet the most blatant use of shame I have found in my work on the history of reproduction and domesticity in the U.S. does not come from the eugenicists of 60 years ago. It comes from the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, a 21st-century effort. Pictures posted in high schools and featured in teen magazines show a Latina girl with "CHEAP" emblazoned across her body. The African American girl is labeled "REJECT," the Asian girl "DIRTY," and the working-class white girl "NOBODY." The very fine print places these labels in a different contextrecommending "cheap" condoms, for example. But the overwhelming effect of the design is bold-print humiliation, suggesting that teenage mothers are cheap, dirty nobodies, social rejects with no future and with little hope for their children. The stark photos are reminiscent of social-hygiene posters from the eugenic era, cultivating a potent combination of disdain and fear.

Possibly the most troubling of the posters features a white boy whose sexual activity resulted in an unexpected pregnancy. He is labeled "USELESS," and the fine print reads: "My scholarship is USELESS. Now I need a job to support my baby." Taken together, the posters convey a deeply problematic message. The college boy who leaves behind his scholarship to take care of the CHEAP REJECT's baby is USELESS.

The board of directors for the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy includes CEOs from major corporations and leaders from both political parties, representing a broad consensus across the United States, as well as leading members of the black and Hispanic communities. The urgency of eliminating teenage pregnancy is one of the few matters on which conservatives and liberals agree, and the stakes are deemed sufficiently high to warrant the use of brute shame.

Sexy Doublespeak
Another national campaign to prevent teen pregnancy is sponsored by the Candie's Foundation, linked to a trendy line of handbags, sunglasses, bikinis, and sandals. The foundation's website speaks a predictable, nonsensical language of free-flowing, responsible sex appeal. "Think of what you can achieve if you don't conceive"this runs as a refrain as various celebrities vogue for the camera. Candie's encourages viewers to "be sexy" (no doubt with the aid of Candie's accessories), but not to have sex. This directive is always followed with a caveat: If you do have sex, use birth control, or else you will suffer "the devastating consequences."

One public service announcement produced by Candie's makes it clear that the consequence that can render sex devastating is, in fact, a human life. With a young couple about to "do this" in the back seat of a car, former Playboy model Jenny McCarthy arrives to deliver a crying baby into the girl's arms. The boy exits the car in a hurry. Jenny leaves, too, sneering at the girl with knowing disgust. "Welcome to reality," are her departing words. The girl is left holding the crying baby, alone, clearly frightened, in the back seat of the car.

Is this truly realitya world where teenage mothers who conceive are abandoned to "devastating consequences"? Perhaps. I sometimes think so when I hear stories of evangelical families who cannot bear the shame of an unplanned pregnancy, as I read thinly veiled warnings in the media about the growing number of young, Latina mothers in the U.S., and as I dig through the archives of meticulously planned reproduction as marketed to mid-20th-century Americans. Throughout that history of planning and parenthood, the word illegitimate bears multiple layers of stigma and shame.

But I have come to believe that Christians are called to be a counterculture for the common good in no small part by refusing to declare any life in our midst illegitimate.

Risky Commitment
Christians are called to a very different kind of double-speak from Candie's bikini-chastity chic. We are called to encourage sexual discipline outside and inside of marriage, while also affirming, in the very same breath, that no pregnancy is outside of God's reach.

This does not mean that Christians cannot say it would have been preferable had this young woman not shared herself intimately with a boy who hardly knew how to appreciate the intricate beauty of her body and the vulnerability of her love. Christians are surely called to teach girls and young women that their bodies are not primarily "in waiting" for sex with a man, but rather actively in service today for the work of the Holy Spirit. But as we affirm the blessings of holy chastity, we must also consider the incipient life embedded inside an image-bearer of God as within the purview of God's providence. A young couple's coupling in the backseat is morally barren (even if ultimately procreative), because it is outside the sacramental gift of marriage. Yet the pregnancy conceived by such a couple in the backseat (even if it is ill-conceived) is well within the reach of God's profligate grace.

During the last century in the United States, many mainline Protestant leaders, committed to the eugenics movement, deemed it their business to determine which births were with the grain of God's plan for the evolving progress of human history and which births were a drag on the movement forward. Christians are called to more humility and more confidence than thatmore humility about the grievous harm that has been done in the name of social progress, and more confidence in God's ability to turn even regrettable human choices to good.

Happily, many Christian churches are already offering a different "welcome to reality" than the one offered by Jenny McCarthy. These congregations, neighborhoods, and kinship networks name the girls in the poster shame-campaign to be children of promise, worthy recipients of hands-on care and communal sacrifice. They refuse the calculus of life that draws a distinction between accidental and providential babies, between the right sorts of people and those sorts of people with teenage mothers.

There are such congregations, but I believe that, in answer to God's call, there could be many more.

Such advocacy, born of holy double-speak, is a stretch for many in my cohort of Christianity. But it is not so much a stretch for many African American congregations and Latino Catholic communities. It is my prayer that more mainstream evangelicals, in both "red" America and "blue" America, will cross over into risky solidarity with a third color of Americans.

We could do so by advocating for and working within alternative high schools where pregnant girls may continue their education. We could work for maternity leave and flexible schedules at all levels of education and enterprise, especially at institutions overtly committed to Christian witness. To be a people committed to the incalculable gift of life may mean myriad commitments that interrupt our plans for our own families. It may mean that a young couple without children find themselves babysitting a child not their blood kin several evenings a week, rather than watching their favorite science fiction series on DVD. A single man may find himself fixing a young single mother's clogged sink on a lunch break or building her toddler a swing set during a holiday weekend. For many mothers and fathers, it may mean adapting their entire life and career to care daily for an unexpected grandchild. And by my own political reckoning, witnessing for the common good not only means hands-on local action, but also advocating for systematic acts of mercy through a matrix of services to offer single mothers a safety net of care.

After hearing me give a talk on abortion, eugenics, and teenage pregnancy, my oldest daughter, with whom I had not yet initiated a talk about birds and bees, looked up at me and said frankly, "Mom, if God gives me a baby before I am married, I won't worry. I know that you and Dad would take care of it so that I could stay in school."

After taking a deep breath and squeezing back tears of sheer parental terror, I agreed that she was right, that we would help her and her baby no matter what. I pray that the situation will not arise, but I also pray that should it arise, her father and I, as well as the congregation into which she has been baptized, will be worthy of her confidence, for to fail her would be contrary to who we hope to be. To fail her would be the true shame.

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