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Dear e-link Subscriber,
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Many thanks to those who share e-link and the opportunities
found in e-link to build a culture of life with fellow
parishioners. Let us never forget those among us who struggle
for the basic necessities that so many of us take for granted.
Please keep those in need in your prayers this Thanksgiving.
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God Bless!
     
Tuesday, November 23, 2004 OSM e-link
Bulletin #29
Table of Contents
Remarks from Kent Peters on the
unfortunate passage of Proposition 71
Key Upcoming Culture-of-Life
Gatherings/Projects (please join us)
- 11th Annual Posada without Borders planned for Saturday,
December 18
- Respect Life Eucharistic Celebration to be held at the
Immaculata Parish on
Saturday, January 22nd at 4:30 p.m. - reception to
follow Mass
- Caroling for Justice - Wed. Dec. 1, Noon to 1:00 p.m. at
UCSD in support of
service employees barganing for an equitable and just
raise
- West Coast Walk for Life in San Francisco set
for Sat. January 22
- OSM offering Parish Social Ministry Course at St. Rose of
Lima Parish, starting
in January of 2005, Linda Arreola will be the instructor
(bilingual)
Short Reports on Office for Social
Ministry Related Issues/Events
- SD Life Resource Network holds successful LifeWalk
- Memorial held for homeless community members who died on
the streets of
San Diego this year, sponsored by the San Diego Rescue
Mission
- Detention ministry community says farwell to Fr. John
Auther, SJ
- Respect-Life Month concluding celbration held at Our Lady
of Guadalupe
Parish in El Centro on October 30, Bishop Cordileone
presided
Advocacy
Request
- Consider purchasing coffee from Catholic Relief Services
Coffee Project, or
better yet, have your parish purchase this coffee for
use at events such
as pancake breakfasts, coffee and donut Sundays, parish
meetings, etc.
- Follow up on the Sudan (request made in e-link #25,
August 4, 2004)
Advocacy Reportback
- Mary Peters, 19, reports back as a first-time voter
Web and
e-mail-based Resources
- Visit the Catholic Relief Services Web Site to find
valuable informational
resources designed for December 1st World AIDS Day
Local and Regional
Events/Gatherings/Projects
- National Night of Prayer for Life set for December 8,
2004
- Monthly Holy Hour for Life at St. Louise de Marillac
Church in Crest
Article/Statement for November 23, 2004
- Essay by Cy Kellett,
When Rituals Replace Reality
(Parents will very
much appreciate this article).
Remarks from Kent Peters
A Small Miracle Found Within the Awful
Passage of Proposition 71
Proposition 71 passed. It did so by a margin of 59% to 41% -
about 6.5 million votes to 4.5 million votes. It is a time for
grieving.
The rich, the powerful, the famous, and the frightened will
now, with our forced financial backing, conspire with scientists
to legally cannibalize the youngest of our brothers and sisters,
five-day-old human embryos, not for their spare parts but for
their very bodies, creating stem lines for research in
California. The glorious Golden State has become the
Drunk-with-scientific-power Cannibalizing State that will leave
in its wake hundreds of thousands of annihilated fellow human
beings. What a horror.
This is a time for grieving, but our showing of 41% was, in a
very real way, a miracle. We must never forget that the entire
pro-71 campaign was based on deception and raw financial power.
They raised and spent over 26 million dollars and never once in
their barrage of commercials mentioned that Prop. 71’s three
billion dollars would primarily fund the cloning and
harvesting of human embryos for their eventual
destruction. We spent about 250 thousand dollars, less that
1/100th of their total, and yet we garnered 4.5 million votes.
How did we do that? Well, you did that, by learning the truth
about Prop. 71 and by sharing that truth with your family,
friends, and neighbors.
I would like to express my profound gratitude to the Catholic
community of California for its work to stop Prop. 71. In a
true grass-roots fashion, our bishops, our priests, our lay
leaders (not including the cowardly Governor Schwarzenegger),
and our youth made a valiant effort to block this nightmare. I
have never before seen the Catholic community so intensely
engaged in opposition to a ballot proposition. Our good
intentions, our clear thinking, and our courageous speaking
leave a good portion of the California electorate well informed
about the death machine that is to come. Together, we will keep
a focused eye on their actions. Our miracle of gaining 4.5
million educated voters could springboard into pulling a pall
over this whole disordered enterprise, leading to its demise.
Consider the flawed moral disposition of the proponents.
They were very willing to deceive and then thrust that deception
onto the public with the raw use of power. Those building this
dark edifice will now come into nearly 300 million per year, but
they will need to share that prize amongst themselves. Picture
how they will be at each other’s throats and what tactics they
might use to gain that first patent. We must never waiver from
monitoring each and every member of this group and then be
willing to expose what we see.
Years into their destructive research on embryos, there will
likely be no useable cure, but we know the truth. There could
have been so much healing if adult stem-cell therapies had been
funded instead. The proponents of Prop. 71 will look as the
charlatans they are, naked under their white coats standing in
front of the sterile death-edifices they will erect to kill for
"progress." What a public spectacle!
Our project, now? Thank God for the miracle, continue
educating the larger community about life issues and adult stem
cell therapies, and never waiver from scrutinizing the
cannibals.
Thank you for all you did in our attempt to block Proposition
71. God bless! |
Key
Upcoming Culture-of-Life
Gatherings/Projects
Number 1: 11th Annual Posada
Without Borders planned for Dec. 18, 2004

The 11th annual La Posada Sin Fronteras, the posada without borders,
has been scheduled from 3:00 p.m. to 6:00 p.m. on Saturday, Dec. 18
at Border Field State Park adjacent to the fence separating the
United States and Mexico. Faith-based groups from both sides of the
border fence sponsor the annual event, which recalls Joseph and
Mary’s search for shelter in Bethlehem on Christmas Eve. Please
join us for this unique posada.
11the Annual La Posada Sin Fronteras (Posada w/o Borders)
Saturday December
18, 2004
3:00 p.m. to 6:00 p.m.
Border Field State Park
The far West end of Monument Road (off of Dairy Mart Road)
For more information call the Office for
Social Ministry at 858-490-8327.
Number 2:
Please join Fr. Matt Spahr, The Immaculata parish community, and the
staff of the Office for Social Ministry to remember in prayer all
who have lost their lives due to the January 22, 1973 Roe vs. Wade
Supreme Court Decision and to re-commit to building a culture of
life in our local community and country.
Each year, in the depths of January, people of goodwill take time
to lament the philosophy that generated the taking pre-born human
life and the Supreme
Court
Decision, Roe vs. Wade, that unleashed that philosophy upon our
culture and country.
Each year we
ask our Lord to rekindle the hope that that philosophy will some day
be
discarded
and viewed as unworthy of human thought, and that a philosophy
leading to a Culture of Life will be reestablished in its place.
We pray for new workers for the vineyard, for strength for the many
who have been involved for so many years, and for all those affected
by the nearly 45 million abortions that have been legally performed
since 1973. We also recognize and pray for the end to the many
other direct threats to human life: euthanasia,
physician
assisted suicide, and the death penalty.
Fr. Matt Spahr,
pastor of the Immaculata, will be the principle celebrant and
homilist at this celebration.
Please join
us to remember, to celebrate our good work, and to hope in a
brighter future for humanity.
January 22, 2005 Respect-Life Mass
Saturday, January 22, 2005
The 4:30 p.m. Mass at the Immaculata Parish - Reception to
Follow
5998 Alcala Park, USD Campus, just off of Linda Vista Road
(free parking in the new parking structure two blocks
East of the Church)
Click on the photo of The Immaculata above for a map to The
Immaculata:
For information or questions about this event, contact Jo Brower at
858-490-8323.
Number 3: Caroling for
Justice with the Interfaith Committee for Worker Justice! Come
support UCSD service employees bargaining for an equitable and just
raise - Wednesday, December 1, 2004, from Noon to 1:00 p.m.
The nearly 9,000 service workers within the UCSD
system are the lowest paid employees, and yet, these workers have
been offered a 0% raise for the next three years. Technical workers
and more skilled
health
care workers have been offered a 10% raise over those same three
years, some even a 30% raise. This just isn't right! San Diego is
the 2nd most expensive region in California in which to live.
Why is it that those at the very bottom, those least able to survive
in our economy, are the ones routinely asked to sacrifice during
difficult times? The new chancellor received a $70,000 raise this
year. Service workers deserve an equitable raise, a pay system that
respects their years of experience, and a chance to advance within
the system.
Caroling
for Justice
Wednesday,
December 1, 2004
Noon to 1:00 p.m.
Price Center Lawn on the Campus of UCSD
MEET AT THE PRICE CENTER PLAZA ON THE CAMPUS OF UCSD
WE WILL PROCESS TO THE OFFICE OF THE CHANCELLOR, CAROLING FOR A
JUST CONTRACT FOR THE UNIVERSITY’S SERVICE EMPLOYEES
Park in the Gilman Parking Structure, bring $2 in quarters for the
meter,
15 minute walk to the Price Center Plaza
For more information
contact Bet Lawrence at the ICWJ at 619-584-5744, ext 60.
Number 4: Walk for Life West
Coast set for January 22, 2004 in San Francisco
Planned for those who
would like to travel to Washington DC for the National Walk for Life
but
don't have the time or resources, join thousands at the first annual
Walk for Life West Coast! Walk to affirm that the West Coast
supports Life in all its stages. Walk to challenge the belief that
abortion is a good choice for Women. Walk to show that women--and
all people--deserve better than abortion. Walk to proclaim that
Life is the best and only choice!
Come
together and walk 2 scenic miles along San Francisco's
waterfront--from Justin Herman Plaza to the Marina Green. Get
involved! Help to make this a real statement for Life to the West
Coast. Organize your churches, charter buses for schools, youth
groups, and families. Make this a fun weekend in San Francisco!
To learn more about
the West Coast Walk for Life click on the logo above or the web
address below:
http://www.walkforlifewc.com/
or call,
415-586-1576.
Walk for Life
- West Coast
Saturday, January 22, 2005
11:00 a.m. Gathering - Walk begins at Noon
San Francisco at the Justin Herman Plaza on Market Street
Number 5:
The Office for Social Ministry, through the Diocesan Institute, will
offer its 15 hour course, Parish Social Ministry, beginning
in January of 2005 at St. Rose of Lima Parish in Chula Vista. Linda
Arreola will be the instructor, and the course will be bilingual.
S1070s Parish Social Ministry (15 hrs)
Bilingual Course
Linda Arreola, M.A.
Mondays: Jan. 24, Feb. 28, March 28,
April 25, May 23 & June 27
6:30 p.m. - 9:00 p.m.
St. Rose of Lima, Chula Vista

Linda Arreola, instructor
To register on-line click on Linda's photo or go to:
http://www.diocese-sdiego.org/set.asp?link=institute.htm&in=Ministries
Course topics include: the place of social ministry
in the mission of the parish, models for its organization, and
methods for developing active parish social ministry.
For more information contact Linda at 858-490-8327.
Short
Reports on OSM Related Issues/Events
Number 1: San Diego's Life
Resource Network (LRN) holds successful LifeWalk and would like to
thank all those who attended.
The Life
Resource Network has declared Life Walk 2004 an official success!
The staff at LRN want to thank each one of you for your hard work in
promoting and praying for this important event.
The Life
Walk drew about 600 walkers from all over San Diego County. These
walkers represent the 51 churches that promoted the event this year
in efforts to raise funds that will enable the continuation and
expansion of education through LRN’s Speakers Bureau.
During Life
Walk promotion (August through October) LRN educated our community
by addressing 157 groups. Fifty five of these groups were students;
including 7 days spent at St. Augustine High School, teaching every
single student about the
sanctity
of human life, responsibility to others, and the beauty of chastity.
The Life
Walk itself was held at two locations: Escondido and La Mesa. The
Escondido location was hosted by the St. John the Evangelist,
Encinitas Knights of Columbus and St. Timothy’s Knights of
Columbus. The La Mesa location was hosted by St. Rose of Lima and
Journey Community Church. Local legislators and pastors came to
show their support.
Bishop
Salvatore Cordileone (see photo at left with Bishop Cordileone,
Linda Stewart and Deacon Greg Smyth) gave a greeting and blessing to
the walkers at Harry Griffen Park and shared words of encouragement
and hope for all those committed and loyal to the life movement.
The Life
Walk was a success because of the people that were involved. Lives
have been changed!
Here is
just one story that is a direct result of the education that the
Life Resource Network does in our community:
After a
recent presentation at Mesa College the professor was praising LRN’s
approach to the abortion issue and telling Michaelene (President,
LRN) that LRN’s message has changed the outlook of her students when
one of the students approached, saying, “You probably don’t remember
me, but I heard your presentation last semester. Two weeks later I
found out I was pregnant. I panicked, dropped out of school and was
planning on having an abortion. But than I started thinking about
what you had said – that many women feel pressured into having an
abortion due to finances and I thought about my mother who wasn’t
financially ready to have me but she did and she did a great job. I
decided that I didn’t want to be forced into having an abortion
because of money. I feel so much stronger since I made that
decision and (rubbing her stomach with a smile on her face) I’m so
happy I’m having this baby! Thank you
so
much! I would really like to get involved.” (She is due in
December.)
Assemblyman George Plescia
(R-CA) took time off of his busy schedule to visit with walkers.
(see photo at left with Assemblyman Plescia, Michaelene Fedenburg,
Executive Director of LRN, and Lynda Jeffries)
Changing
one heart, one mind, one person at a time…until abortion is
unthinkable!
The Office for Social Ministry would like to thank the staff
and volunteers of the Life Resource Network for all they have done
to help establish an educational foundation in the Diocese of San
Diego that makes possible monumental cultural change in favor of
respect for human life.
Number 2: Each year, in
November, the San Diego Rescue Mission sponsors a memorial service
for the homeless members of our community who have died on the
streets during the past year.

To the left is a collage of just a few of those who read the
names of the deceased at this year's memorial service, along with
the placard containing the names of those who died.
(seen reading the names are: Msgr. Joe Caroll, President of St.
Vincent De Paul Village, Imam Sharif Battikhi of the American
Islamic Services Center, Rabbi Alexis Roberts of Congregation Dor
Hadash)
Following are the remarks given by Jim Jackson, Director of the
San Diego Rescue Mission, as he opened the service.
Nearly 10,000 of our fellow citizens are homeless this evening
in San Diego County -- Some of them died alone during the past
year.
Today is Homeless Persons Remembrance Day - Our mayor issued this
proclamation because 96 people died in the canyons of our city, in
vacant lots, under freeway bridges.
We are gathered as people of faith to remember each and every one.
We will celebrate their lives while being true to our various
religious traditions.
For example --
Buddhist teachings emphasize our common humanity that moves us to
compassion. We can transcend suffering through compassionate acts
guided by wisdom.
Hebrew prophets call us to a society ruled by justice and
compassion for the poor.
Jesus of Nazareth taught us to love our neighbor as ourselves, in
fact, eternal joyfulness depends upon feeding the poor and
clothing the naked.
The Prophet Muhammad taught us that one of the pillars of the
faith is generosity toward the poor.
Join us now in your own way as we remember homeless persons who
died alone this past year.
Let us begin by reading together words of comfort and reassurance
for those who mourn. Let us read aloud together the words of the
psalmist printed in your program.
Let us bring hundreds of Catholic parishioners to next year's
memorial service and send a message to the community that all who
reside in our city deserve respect, whether they have residences or
live on the streets.
Number 3: Community Celebrates
with Fr. John Auther, SJ, noted detention ministry leader in the
diocese, at his recent farewell dinner
Father John Auther, SJ, has served at Our Lady of Guadalupe in San
Diego and has been actively involved in jail ministry at five
different detention facilities over the last four years. He has
provided leadership and inspiration for many of the volunteers who
serve in this ministry.
Jesuit leadership has called Father John to a period of
Tertianship, part of ongoing Jesuit formation,
during
part of 2005, following his delivering a retreat in Lima, Peru.
Father John Auther, SJ (see photo at left) paused for a
photo with volunteers Leticia Cheung, Mary Terry, Barbara Walsh and
Mara Martin as he was honored at a farewell dinner at St. Joseph
Cathedral on November 13, 2004. Mary Terry and Rev. Richard Brown,
SJ arranged for Fr. John's parents from Arizona to be present for
the dinner.
Father John has provided presence, compassion, hope and love for
hundreds of inmates through his direct service in the jails and
through his correspondence program from the "outside". He has
garnered the respect of inmates, jail chaplains and staff.
The volunteers who served with him, as well as Diocesan detention
ministry staff, and the parishioners at Our Lady of Guadalupe will
miss him and pray for his continued success wherever God sends him.
Thank you Fr. John!
Number 4: A Respect-Life Month
concluding celebration was held on Saturday, October 30, 2004 at Our
Lady of Guadalupe Parish in El Centro. Mass was celebrated by
Bishop Salvatore Cordileone and several priests of the El Centro
Deanery, and workshops in Spanish and English were given by the
Office for Social Ministry, Rachel's Hope and BirthChoice of El
Centro. More that 100 participants attended.

Bishop Cordileone spoke on the differences between a
utilitarian society and one that has accepted the One, true God. In
the utilitarian society the person has merit only if he/she is of
use. In it the members are playing God and the world is ugly and
dangerous. But in a society where God is accepted as Truth, the
person is seen as having intrinsic human dignity. In this society
compassion, love and generosity is called forth. Our role as lay
persons is to transform the community and all its institutions and
structures by establishing a culture of life and love.

Following the workshops, those who stayed behind with questions
for the speakers gathered for a photo with Fr. Jaime Escobedo,
Pastor of Our Lady of Guadalupe.
The Office for Social Ministry would like
to thank the priests of the El Centro Deanery for their work in
making this celebration such a success.
e-link Advocacy
REQUEST
This is a first for e-link. Advocacy, to date, has consisted of
requests to contact politicians or leaders who have the ability to
change policy and benefit those who are under attack or who are
marginalized.
In this issue, however, we are asking you to learn about a global
farming problem and then purchase and consume a product, one that
most of us use each day, from a unique source. It's called Fair
Trade Coffee. It's a project of Catholic Relief Services (CRS).

Catholic Relief Services works overseas to provide assistance to
people who struggle to survive. This includes low-income coffee
farmers. Here in the United States, CRS
supports
those farmers by promoting Fair Trade, an alternative system of
international trade that is rooted in the principles of human
dignity, economic justice and global solidarity.
Please click on the photo of one of CRS's coffee growers to the left
or follow the link below to learn how you can order Fair Trade
coffee from CRS. Order it for your family (Fair Trade Coffee makes
a perfect Christmas gift). You may even want to propose that your
parish order CRS Fair Trace Coffee for use at its functions.
http://www.crsfairtrade.org/
Thanks for promoting CRS Fair Trade Coffee!
And then, as always, please report back via e-mail
reportback@diocese-sdiego.org
on how your purchase of Fair Trade coffee went.
Follow-up on a Past e-link Request
(#25, August 4, 2004)
The conflict in Sudan continues. To date, it has claimed the lives
of more than 100,000 people and forcibly displaced over 1.5 million
others. The international community has not been effective in
trying to secure peace in the region. Government forces have been
said to raid camps of displaced persons and have denied access to
humanitarian workers. Catholic Relief Services continues to work in
Sudan. Go to
http://www.catholicrelief.org/our_work/where_we_work/overseas/africa/sudan/what.cfm
to see what CRS is doing to aid the refugees and displaced persons
in Sudan.
As part of the Stories of Faith Program, the San Diego
Public Library will present the film “ Sudan : Slipping Back in
Time” on Monday. Nov. 29 at 6 p.m.
In addition to the other cruelties of the civil war in Sudan ,
slavery has become big business. Dinka women and children are
abducted by militiamen in the south and sold as slaves to their Arab
enemies. Southern Sudan is black African, while the north is
Islamic. It takes $50 to buy a slave’s freedom. A Christian aid
organization has been buying the slaves from their Arab captors.
Many of the freed slaves tell of the abuse they suffered and of
their longing to be reunited with their loved ones.
At the City Heights/Weingart Branch Library’s Performance Annex,
3795 Fairmount Ave., (619) 641-6123.
e-link Advocacy REPORTBACK
From a first-time voter:
Voting for the first time in this 2004 Election year was quite a
learning experience! I was pretty excited to vote and made sure I
did my homework - watching debates, nightly news stories, reading
the paper, and having countless discussions with my friends and
family. When I went to the polls I felt confident and excited that
I made the right decision. I voted for someone who shared the same
values as me and who I could put my trust in to lead and make the
right decisions.
Mary Peters
Thank you, Mary,
for reporting back. Would that all voters take the time you did to
prepare for this important task. Keep up the good work!
Web and
e-mail-based Resources

World AIDS DAY
Resources Found at CRS Online
In the World, AIDS Day is observed every Dec. 1 and
provides a good opportunity to spread the word about the devastating
effects of the global AIDS pandemic, which has taken 20 million
lives since the first AIDS diagnosis in 1981. According to UNAIDS,
in 2003 alone almost five million people became newly infected with
HIV, the greatest number in any one year since the beginning of the
epidemic.
Please join CRS, the Office for Social Ministry, and many others in
the United States and across the world as we commemorate World AIDS
Day. To assist dioceses, parishes, schools and universities to plan
their events, please visit the CRS web site for educational
materials:
http://www.catholicrelief.org/get_involved/advocacy/grass_roots/support_more.cfm
New
Local/Regional Events and
Gatherings
If you are planning an event that falls within the mission of social
ministry, send the particulars four to five weeks in advance to the
Office for Social Ministry via e-mail,
osmelink@diocese-sdiego.org. The OSM reserves the right to
publish or not to publish any proposed event information. We hope
this will assist your local efforts to re-build a culture of life.
1.
National Night of Prayer for Life planned for December 8,
2004
December 8 - National Night of Prayer for Life spans the
Feasts of the Immaculate Conception and Our Lady of Guadalupe's
first apparition to St. Juan Diego. On December 8, 2004 parishes
throughout the United States will unite in an effort to end abortion
through Eucharistic Adoration and prayers of reparation. The "hour
of Unity" is from 12 midnight to 1:00 a.m. EST, so that all parishes
in the four time zones can be linked in prayer across the continent
at the same hour. Contact your parish Culture of Life Coordinator
to find out whether your parish is participating, or call Jo Brower
at the OSM at 858-490-8323 for more information.
2. Holy Hour for Life Intentions scheduled monthly at St.
Louise de Marillac Church In Crest
Anyone who is interested in praying for the pro-life cause, please
join us on the third Thursday of each month (Thursday, December 16
is the next date) at 7:00 p.m. for a holy hour and benediction at
St. Louise de Marillac Church in Crest, 2005 Crest Dr. For
information contact Molly Treadwell at
From 8 East, take Greenfield Dr. and turn right. Take a left at the
signal light (La Cresta) and go up the hill and you will come to the
church on the corner. Fr. Bob Irwin or Deacon Tim Treadwell will
preside.
Watch for OSM e-link bulletin
#30 around Wednesday, December 15, 2004
Article/Statement for November 23, 2004
Cy Kellett, editor of the Southern Cross, has an uncanny way of
relating the vices of our everyday lives, those often paraded as
virtues by our materialistic culture, to their cause, thus giving us
an understanding of how to cure them, or at least how to avoid
embracing them as some form or goodness. This essay has become
required reading at the Peters' household. Please enjoy Cy's
wisdom.
When Rituals Replace Reality
Cy Kellett, The Southern Cross
Our son turned 6 recently.
My wife invited a few neighborhood friends and some cousins over.
She served cake, had a piñata and let the kids play.
This doesn't sound like an act of defiance but, increasingly, this
type of thing is.
Many kids' birthday parties have become major events, and there is
pressure on parents to keep up. When I was a kid we loved the church
festival, in part because they had one of those inflatable jump
houses. Nowadays many kids don't think they're at a party unless
someone rents a jump house.
Parents hire entertainers, rent pizza places, import petting zoos -
anything to let the kid know that their birthday is absolutely the
most important event going on anywhere on earth this particular day.
There are other areas in contemporary life in which there seems to
be a creeping surfeit of rituals.
There was a time when the prom was just a very nice dance; now it is
not really a prom unless someone rents a super-stretch limo. Hotel
suites are involved. Unbelievable sums are spent.
And we used to graduate from high school and college. Now there are
elaborate graduation ceremonies from pre-school, kindergarten, grade
school, middle school and any other stage of learning we can manage
to muddle through.
Weddings - don't even get me started on weddings. Good God, people
bankrupt themselves for the perfect flower arrangement.
Of course, part of the reason we do these things is that we can. Our
society has become rich beyond the dreams of any society in history.
To be middleclass in America today is to live in luxury once
reserved for emperors. Many people spend more on their annual cable
bill than a Bangladeshi family might earn in a year.
But this is only part of the problem; the other reason we invest so
much in the ever-grander celebration of life's rituals is that we
feel we have to.
If our lives are to have meaning, then these moments of passage must
be invested with almost magical power to confer that meaning. We
bankrupt the family to pay for the ridiculously expensive wedding
because we have invested the wedding with meaning beyond all reason.
A bride who has a magnificent wedding is, somehow, transformed into
the princess she cannot be in the rest of her life. The child who
has an elaborate birthday party is not just a child; he or she is,
for a day, the center of creation. The kids who go off to prom in
the super-stretch limo are not just gangly teens; they are special
teens living through the great dream of American adolescence - "The
greatest years of their lives!"
No doubt the coming decades will see innovations in the celebration
of these rituals that we cannot yet imagine. A child's birthday will
not be complete unless it is held on a rocket and shot around the
moon. The wedding will not be a success unless a new island is built
in the middle of the ocean just for this day. The prom won't be the
prom unless the super-stretch limo is surrounded by police, who will
escort it quickly through every traffic light as we poor souls who
are no longer living the dream of American adolescence look on in
envy.
Sadly, our lives will not be made fuller by any of this; our rituals
will only get more grandly empty.
This is not the fault of ritual, per se. Life can be ennobled by
ritual. True ritual is a means to touch what is deeper in our lives.
Baptism, for example, is a rather plain, even sparse ritual - all it
takes is a little water - but when we know what is underneath the
actions of this ritual, we find they expresses an incomprehensible
beauty.
Life that is dubious about its own meaning, however, cannot be made
fuller by ritual; it can only be given the veneer of fullness. It
seems to me that this is what we are doing when we inflate what
should be the little rituals of everyday life, turning them into
festivities that would make the Roman Empire blush.
We are trying to find meaning through ritual, instead of letting
rituals express a meaning that is deeper than ourselves.
It has always amused me when proudly secular people make fun of
religious rituals and then go off to their New Years Eve
extravaganzas and their Super Bowl parties and their elaborate
Valentine's Day trysts.
You can't get away from ritual; it is part of our nature. But when a
birthday party turns into a circus, when a wedding rivals the
splendor of the Academy Awards - ritual has replaced real life and
become an ever more demanding tyrant.
And, no matter how big the jump house, the emptiness remains
unfilled.
From the November 4, 2004 edition of The Southern Cross |